An undershirt/pantie combo would help make your flee more useful, especially if you slot the undershirt and put a whisper in it.
As good as a whispered undershirt is for early PvE, that's really not going to be a good solution here. By the time he gets to the budget where he can get a slotted undershirt, let alone a whisper card, he's going to be at the stage of the game where you aren't dodging attacks anyways. It's amazing when you want to level alts, but no amount of flee is going to help a blacksmith in late PvE unless you're tackling some pretty mild content or have gone to a point of Agi stacking which is unwise.
Get a snake head. Just do it. It's borderline broken and it's cheap. If you don't like the aesthetics, take it off when you don't need it, but for grinding PvE content it is just silly how good it is. It is good for leveling alt characters as well unless you're raising a wizard. As far as gearing, it really depends on how far ahead you are looking. We are missing a LOT of gear.
The first thing you should focus on is a weapon though. Getting hit for less is nice, but things don't hit you at all if you're dead. An elemental 2 handed axe would definitely be a solid choice for farming in PvE content. The attack value is very high. When paired with your self buffs and the fact that weapon damage matters so much more in renewal mechanics, you'll be doing pretty well for yourself for a while.
Overall you really will need a few sets of gear, depending on what you are trying to do. Pick what you want to kill and then go from there. That might not be much help, but that's kind of how this game works. You need a shield to PvP. That's pretty much a given. You won't need it for a lot of PvE content though.
As far as stats go, you no longer need to reach intervals of 10 strength. That's an old mechanic that (sadly) has gone away. Strength has a fairly minor impact in your overall damage now, at least compared to overupgrading level 3/4 weapons. As far as being concerned about your VIT, the 50/60 you chose isn't too much. That's about right. Going higher wouldn't even be a bad idea. I wouldn't even consider touching PvP as any character without a bare minimum of 40 VIT.
TL;DR: Get an (elemental) 2 handed axe and start farming PvE content until you can afford a few sets of gear.